Conquering your fear

Overcoming your fears requires that you first accept that you are having fear, some people may just try to avoid it. And the only way to overcome your fear is by facing it.

I always had a fear of talking to new people, public speaking, sharing my ideas on the internet, but I tackled all the above things by applying the below quote.

The only way to overcome your fear is to actually face your fear.

If you never face your fear, and decide to live with it, your life is going to be miserable.

For example, if you have a fear of networking like I had and you decide to live with it, then the school will be alright maybe college will also be alright without networking but when you are out to work, lacking this skill will make you an unsuccessful person even if you are doing your work properly, just because you are bad at communication and networking.

And with time passes, you will have more fear about the same thing which you could have tackled earlier with much ease.

Your life will be driven by fear rather than you if you don’t overcome it.

I will share how I faced my fear but it is on you to actually go out there and do what I suggest to you, this article is more practical than theoretical, I request my readers to apply what I say, to see the results.

My Story

I had much fear that I lived with till my junior college, It is recently that I understood, facing your fear is the only way to overcome it.

I have always been a shy person, I very rarely approach people because of my communication fear. I always thought people would judge me and I had a fear that people don’t want to talk to me.

But one day when I was in my college class, I saw a girl reading a book, I thought of asking her about the book as I am a very big fan of reading books.

It took me a couple of minutes to gather the courage to talk to her. And to my surprise it went pretty well, we ended up talking for about 20 minutes about books and we became friends.

You see that was the first time I faced my fear and approach someone to talk. And after that, I was getting better and more comfortable talking to people. I felt confident.

If I had never faced my fear and approached that person I don’t think I would be able to overcome my fear of communication.

Now, if I would had thought of overcoming when I go to work maybe it would be difficult for me. Maybe because I am not confident in talking to people I may never get passed in interview.

Accept your fear

While I was discussing this article idea with my friend, she said some things very important which is the foundation in overcoming your fear.

“Facing your fears requires that you first accept that you are having fear, some people may just try to avoid it.

"Acknowledgment is the first step".

"When you know what fear you are having then only you can deal with it like a champion”.

The two things you can do which can help you to face your fear

Use the worst scenario method

Imagine the worst case that can happen if you do what you fear, it can be talking to people.

What could go wrong when you talk to a stranger?

He won’t reply properly, he will ignore you. Nothing more than that, right?

People will respect you because you are an ice-breaker. And most of the time when I approach strangers they welcome me and they become my friends.

At the end of the day, you should be proud of yourself that you tried, and the majority of times you will succeed.

Don’t overthink

We always tend to overthink, don’t overthink. Just approach the person or just give your speech.

Our minds always make easy things complex, don’t give him chance to overthink. Be authentic and respect other people, that’s all you need.

Exercise

You won’t overcome your fear by reading this, you need to take action, follow the below checklist and I am sure you will see some progress in overcoming your fear.

• Write down your fears

• Decide the one which has many consequences if not overcome (if can be networking, traveling)

• Get your hands dirty. (Face your fear by trying to network with new people, traveling) (Use the worst scenario method or don’t overthink)

• After succeeding or failing (write what went right and what went wrong)

• Repeat from the third point

• After overcoming one fear, repeat the second point and overcome new fear.

• Repeat

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